How men face their feelings
What makes a man?
Men in Western cultures (also in many other cultures) socially conceal their feelings, stand alone, and all “act” rather than feel.
These ideas are contained in the stereotyped culture of heroic men and are reflected in movies and television.
Bravery, resourcefulness, perseverance, self-restraint, and misfortune all tell us how our behavior is considered the ideal male behavior in our culture.
More than the movie characters is the role of parents in our eyes.
Many men’s fathers may be emotionally indifferent, and rarely cry or express preferences in front of themselves.
The parental behaviors we observe subtly become models of our own behavior as adults.
Four Basic Emotions It is helpful to think in terms of four basic human emotions, including sadness, anger, happiness, and fear.
Sometimes it means “sad, crazy, smug, and bad.”
Of these four emotions, only anger and happiness are considered true “masculinity” in the traditional male model.
However, fear and sadness are common among humans, and otherwise for women.
These emotional goals are normal responses to threats and loss.
Because men can easily avoid these imaginary “fragile” emotions, they often hide sadness and worry, and channel these emotions into their most common emotion-anger.
This will turn some emotionally frustrated people into potential powder kegs.
Because it is taught to suppress their feelings, many men cannot use any words to describe their emotional state.
When they are unable to express their needs, fears and griefs, the reversal of the inhibition of feelings leads to more serious setbacks in interpersonal relationships.
When it comes to emotional issues, men are often hit by female partners, because men can’t clearly express their feelings or express support for women.
This can lead to confusion, anger and incompetence for men.
The price of hidden emotions Many men have restrictions on the expression of their mutual feelings in life, which will lead to the following problems: 1. Health problems caused by the uneasiness of the merger in the body 2. Inability to resolve emotional conflicts or the apparent lack of intimacyInterpersonal difficulties3, psychological problems such as depression, insomnia and worry4, behavioral problems such as emotional concealment leading to strong violence during outbreaks Men are often asked to “connect with their feelings”, butWhat exactly does this mean?
What should we do?
Here are some strategies to help you better understand your feelings: 1. Know something about your feelings in your body.
Emotions always appear somewhere in the body.
Anger is the heat of anger, sadness is like a tightened throat, and worry is like a knot in the stomach.
Meditating can help you get in touch with these feelings, and you will also understand their meaning. 2 When you are angry, ask yourself what other emotions you have.
Are you really sad or scared?
3. Take the risk to show your weaknesses in front of those who are safe.
Let yourself be a person, not a robot 4. Break the rules, ask for help when you need 5, learn to express your feelings 6, and try to consult with others.
Chatting with a “professional listener” can help you judge those feelings behind and especially considered.
7, the determination and expression of feelings for a learned behavior-only need to practice.